We live in a world where there must be a Masters Degree in Excuses for Bad Behavior. That reality is evidenced in the relationship single females have with their male counterparts. It seems the female is constantly seeking the reason her male counterpart acted the way he did when the answer is often so simple.
He says he didn’t call because his phone battery died. When really he went out with his buddies and you were the last thing on his mind. He’s so sorry he was an hour late the traffic was really bad. Instead of I just didn’t think you would be upset that I had to master one more level on my video game before I could find my keys to get in the car.
Then the classic I am afraid of commitment because I was hurt so badly by someone else. Instead of I have every intention of seeing everything I can get from you while making a minimal amount of effort.
Ladies, what is wrong with this picture??????? We must not assume that all men make excuses, some are caught in traffic, have let their cell phone battery die or have been hurt, these are life realities. But let’s not assume they are telling the truth either. Especially when you are hoping to build a long lasting relationship with a repeat offender. They must earn your respect and trust the same way you must earn theirs.
Simple common courtesy - call when you say you will, arrive on time - just basics should be expected. The exception to that behavior needs to be occasional not recurrent. It doesn’t matter how cute he is or how many flowers he brings to prove he’s sorry if all he can offer is an excuse in answer the “what happened?” question. This indicates a personality that will display unacceptable behavior in every area of life.
Simple moral to the story ladies, if he acts like a jerk……he probably is. Don’t accept his excuses and expect more from him than his lack of even a little common courtesy. If all ladies would hold men to this standard they would step up. They would work for that relationship because they had to. They need to work for it. They would be better men worthy of women that expect better men. Worthy of women who themselves seek to be better women. And you wouldn’t be left waiting by the phone hoping for a call.